If you aren’t watching Love and Marriage Huntsville on Own Network, and you fancy yourself a connoisseur of reality shows, then you should. This show is bananas but undeniably real. There is a lot going on, on the show and outside of the show. Why is it so popular? Because, unlike some reality shows, the drama is real and sometimes raw for the viewers so this leads me to talk about one couple that are on the show, and believe me they are worthy of studying. Marcell and Melody Holt are a perfect example of when the codependent gains the strength to leave the narcissist.
We all watched him dog her out to the point we thought she was weak, but hold up. When Melody found out that Martell long time mistress was pregnant, she filed for a divorce and like any other narcissist that realizes he made a mistake Martell has starting to become unhinged. He never thought she would leave him; He thought she was so broken and in love that he could go back and forth between them. But Melody bossed up, toughened up, and is on the come up.
Last season Martell refused to go to events, and was spreading gossip about the other cast mates. But now that Melody left, he is popping upon all the people he “shaded” residences of places of business. He even had the nerve to pop up at Melody’s new home; mind you he refused to live the marital home forcing her to get a new place for her and their kids.
The Smear Campaign
Martell is telling anyone who will listen to him that Melody also cheated on him. The looks on the faces that he says that shows it all, nobody believes that. And if that doesn’t work he tries to go back to his tried and true excuse of Melody not pleasing him sexually. Nobody is buying that either. The more he tries to get people to view this woman as a neglectful wife the more the casts see through him. He also had the nerve to say it was because of Melody he acted so hatefully towards the others that was offended by him on the previous season.
Now since Melody won’t take him back he is hell bent on getting a reaction from her and barely gets one. But he knows her. He tells her he is seeking full custody. Now Melody reacts, and he has a smile of satisfaction on his face. He wanted so badly to project his self hate onto her. It gives off the smell of “if I can’t make you come back I will make your life hell” and it stinks.
The Grass Is Always Greener
The mistress lost as soon as Melody let go. Narcissists like to compare, triangulate and gaslight people that are in relationships with. When the mistress became his lover by default she was no longer his temporary escape from his marriage. Now he looks at the mistress as a liability, especially now that she will have a baby. Now he realizes Melody had it all but he took her love for granted. Now he will have to watch Melody gain self esteem from accomplishments. He will now have to watch her be with another man that will treat her and the kids well.
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